There are quite a handful of ways to know if your spouse/partner is cheating on you but here, I’ll discuss just eight (8) of them and note, I’m writing this from experience because when I cheated on my partner, I did most of them. Be patient and read through, you’ll learn something.
1. “I Love You But I’m Not In Love With You.”
Once you hear these words, a big warning bell should sound in your head. This is one of the most common things a cheating spouse will say. Your spouse may have a deep, loving bond with you but, intense feelings of passion can override the bond with you and cause your spouse to lose sight of his/her true feelings. A cheating spouse will develop what I call hormone – induced amnesia. The surging hormones and passion they feel in their new relationship can screw the way they think.
2. “We are just friends.”
This is one sure statement that will come from a cheating partner. If your partner is spending more and more time with this new “friend,” then there is obviously more to it than a mere friendship. Your partner may feel they have a lot in common with this person, that this person understands them and things they are going through not knowing such feelings will only push them away from you. Whatever the reasons for the friendship, it’s a big warning sign and one you should take seriously.
3. A sudden need for privacy.
If things the two of you used to share openly suddenly become private pay attention cause something is probably up. When he/she starts to protect their cell phones or computer, my dear, you have to sit-up and be at alert because something fishy is going on. If you ask why or attempt to find out information that used to be common knowledge between the two of you, you will be accused of snooping or trying to control your spouse. Very big warning sign!
4. “I need some space to figure out my feelings.”
Men and women who are involved with someone else will request more space, time alone or away from the family. They may say it is due to confusion over their feelings or stress at work. This can be a sign that there is someone else and the spouse is trying to figure out ways to have more freedom.
5. Regular work habits change.
Working late, going to work at odd hours or, putting in more time than is normal on work related issues can be a sign that your partner is giving more time to something else and hides it under the word “Work.” Be vigilant when you notice things like this.
6. Secretive phone calls and more time spent on the phone.
Emotional affairs occur primarily via the phone, especially cell phones. If you find your spouse hanging up suddenly when you enter the room or erasing the history on the cell phone and becoming defensive when asked about it, then you might want to check your phone records.
7. Behavior that just doesn’t add up.
Not being where he/she was expected to be. Missing time they can’t explain. Money that isn’t accounted for. Receipts for things you don’t have. Missing clothing. Clothing that does not belong to your family. Being caught in little lies about the details of the day. If something is off with their behavior, you should suspect cheating .
8. Your Own fears and suspicions
If you find yourself looking for excuses for your spouse’s behavior or trying to convince yourself that they would never cheat then that is a warning sign. Your intuition is frequently one of the best indicators that something is wrong. If you suspect your spouse might be cheating on you, do some investigating and then talk to him/her about what you’ve found. Do it in a way that is calm and courteous. Ask for honesty. Be prepared for lies, it’s a natural thing they must lie but it doesn’t mean the love isn’t there. Sometimes they lie out of respect. Be calm and friendly, they will open up. It is a sad fact that people having affairs become excellent liars. People who never told a lie before in their lives. Trust your gut instinct but get hard, cold proof also.
Now that you’ve finished reading this, I’m sure you’ve learnt a great deal and would love your friends to see this too. Simply share this article on your social media and they’ll thank you for sharing this secret with them.
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