Marriage is obviously one of the most important things you’ll ever do in your life. Marriage ties you to the love of your life- your soul mate- ‘til death do you part. THAT’s a big deal. So how do you know if you’re ready? What are some of the benefits of tying the knot? We’ve penciled out everything you need to know about marriage, from the health benefits to the security, and the simple things you need to consider before asking those four powerful words, “Will you marry me?”
Here’s some benefits to getting married:
1. You Love Each Other
This is really what it comes down to at the end of the day. You love her with all your heart? You should marry her. You love him with all of your heart? Marry him! Without love, marriage is nothing. Don’t even continue reading this blog if you’re not sure about your love for your partner.
2. Health Benefits
This might come as a surprise, but did you know that marriage can have a positive impact on your health? (That is, of course, if you are in a healthy relationship). Some of the health benefits include less depression and anxiety, stronger immune system, and less overall stress- which in turn is VERY good for your overall well-being. (So don’t listen to your divorced friends that will tell you the exact opposite!)
It has been proven time and time again that when two individuals are married, their bond is even stronger than two individuals living together in a long-term relationship. It may be due to the fact that there is much more to lose when you are married. I mean, just think about it. When you are married, have a house and have other shared items, and maybe even have kids, divorce can be incredibly tough. You’ll spend hours in a court room, talking with lawyers, and undergoing hours of unneeded stress and agony. Married couples have a tendency to stay together and have a less likely chance of straying away from the marriage or going behind each other’s backs to cheat.
4. Community Property
Before we get started on this particular reason to get married, let me just say this: this isn’t meant to be a selfish reason whatsoever. Approach this reason from a secure and stable standpoint instead. Well, we all know that married couples share everything- house, money, cars, etcetera. We also know that when one of the spouses passes on, the other spouse receives (most) of everything (except what’s left to kids, grandkids, etcetera). This is known as ‘community property’, and yes it’s a very beneficial thing when a spouse passes on. Instead of being left with nothing, you have some type of security to lean back on.
5. Two Incomes
Of course this particular reason only applies to couples who are BOTH working, but it’s still definitely important to mention. TWO INCOMES. Do I really need to say anymore? The combined incomes from both individuals in the relationship equates to some serious cash, enough to pay off rent on that new home and maybe even splurge on a new car and some other fun goodies. And this is probably obvious, but two incomes is WAY better than one. Get married, and enjoy two incomes- it’s as simple as that!
This goes somewhat hand in hand with the ‘loyalty’ reason, but there’s other stability that comes from marriage. You can always know that there is someone there for you, rooting you on. You always have someone you can turn to in your time of need. You will always have someone to share the good times and the bad times with. You’ll have a family, and if you have kids, your children will have that stability as well. Marriage just comes with a certain type of security that you simply can’t get from a basic relationship, even if you are living with your significant other.
7. Goal for You and Others
The majority of the population has a goal to get married to the love of their life at one point or another. And no, I’m not saying you should just get married to mark this ‘goal’ off your list. But once you do decide you’re ready to get married, it’s certainly a huge accomplishment you can be proud of: you did it. You find the woman/man of your dreams, and you’re going to spend the rest of your lives together. We think you deserve a pat on the back for that! And it doesn’t just stop there: others will see your giant accomplishment (your single friends, family members, even children) and want to achieve that same amazing goal.
8. You Want Kids
I’m definitely not saying you have to be married to have children (so don’t judge- I’m a single mother myself). But I will say this: it’s best to get married before you have kids. It really does benefit children in a number of different ways. They have a more stable household, there is typically more money in a family to take care of the children, and you have the input from both male and female which helps to build a child in a number of different ways. If you and your significant other are talking about including the pitter patter of little feet in the future, we suggest tying the knot beforehand.
9. Grow Old Together
Whether you will admit to it or not, we ALL have a fear of growing old alone. I mean, what could be worse? The thought alone is enough to send shivers down your spine. However, marriage gives you a security (most of the time) to have someone by your side in your old age. Not only that, but you’ll get to experience growing old together and experience everything that the years have to offer. Now, wouldn’t you rather have someone stand by your side through all of the birthdays, holidays, sick days, and other fun/scary things of life?
10. Sexual Fulfillment
If I were to tell you that having sex after your married to the person you love is a thousand times better, you probably wouldn’t believe me. But it’s true. It’s been proven that engaging in sexual behavior with someone you are romantically involved in/deeply in love with is a much better experience than having relations with someone you’re not emotionally connected to. You will experience a height of passion and increased orgasms- why wouldn’t you want that? (Not to mention you’ll be getting it a lot more often now that you’re living together- wink wink).
11. More Educated
Studies have shown that married couples tend to have higher educations- especially the women. We’re not entirely sure why that is, but we can only imagine that they have the secure support they need from a spouse to help push them through the struggles of schooling. We can also assume that there is financial stability to support the high costs of school.
Here’s some things to consider before you get married:
12. You Are Financially Able
We can’t tell you enough: don’t get married unless you are financially able to do so. And I’m not just talking about paying for the wedding, either! Make sure you have a stable career that can support you and your partner, a home, and possibly a car. So many marriages are ruined because there simply isn’t enough money (just look up why so many end up getting divorced- someone either cheated or there’s some serious finance issues going on). If you’re not financially ready, then let that be your goal, marriage being the driving force behind that goal. Once you are secure and stable with money, then you can start planning out the wedding of your dreams. But please- don’t do it until you’re certain!
13. You Are Emotionally Able
Sometimes people rush into marriage. They think they are in love with someone, they think they are ready to settle down for the rest of their lives, and they jump into it without thought. But please remember- marriage is supposed to be a life decision. Marriage is supposed to tie the two of you together “til death do we part”. If you aren’t absolutely positive you’re ready to give up the single life and commit to someone for the REST of your life, then you need to wait. Don’t jump into marriage if you’re not ready. In fact, studies say it takes at least 3 years to get to know someone well enough to marry them. We suggest waiting 3 years (preferably longer) before tying the knot- that way you know the person very well and the marriage success rate is higher.
14. You Are NOT Pressured
Some people get married simply because they are being pressured- from friends who are married, family members who want them to get married, etcetera- but that is NOT a reason to take the plunge and get married. If you’re only doing it to shut everyone up, then you’re doing it for the wrong reasons. WAIT.
15. You Have Similar Goals
One great reason to get married is that the two of you are on the same page about almost everything. Having similar goals will keep your marriage alive and strong. These can be short term goals, like moving to the city, getting an apartment, or finishing school, or long term goals like having 5 children and having an estate in the hills. Whatever it is, having similar goals (and beliefs) will certainly make your bond THAT much tighter, and thus your relationship will thrive.
So after reading this, we are dying to know. Are YOU ready to tie the knot with that special someone?