Having a relationship or getting married is one thing, another thing is keeping it alive and ticking. Before listing the 5 tips, I’ll tell you a short story about a friend who kept having misunderstandings with his partner. One day, after making several complaints to me, he said, “I’ll allow fate decide the outcome of my relationship. “.
Why did he say that when he loved his woman so much? The reason is that they just weren’t getting along and most times, the causes of their fights wasn’t worth it. But good enough, after counselling them both, they adjusted and today, they’re living happily as couples.
Talking about how to keep your relationship/marriage alive, there are quite a load of things you should always do but here, I’ll mention just 5 important tips that should help you build and maintain a sweet relationship with your partner.
1. Make Time for Your Relationship/Marriage When Possible:
Try as much as possible to make time for your partner week after week. For couples, having a standing date night can never be a bad idea. Even if you have kids or work week in week out, that shouldn’t stop you. Communicate to your kids (if married), friends, everyone, that this night is specially reserved for you and your partner. Keep the date every week and make it your priority, no matter what comes up.
2. Have Fun and do Pleasurable Things Together:
No matter how dry the fun might happen to be, sharing it and doing pleasurable things together fosters intimacy. A relationship is all about intimacy. Learn to share jokes, meals, funny movies, play times together – including outdoor activities. What matters most is that the activity is pleasurable and fun to you two.
3. Resolve Conflicts ASAP:
ASAP here means As Soon As Possible. I quite agree with you that it could be somewhat difficult to say sorry during a heated argument with your partner but then, try to resolve it as quickly as possible. However, it is easier to go your separate corners after having a fight but you have to know that when conflicts lingers or stays unresolved, it fosters long term hurt and resentment. It’s OK for you to disagree with your partner but it’s extremely important to find a solution quickly. I mean, as quickly as possible.
4. Keep the Romance Fire Burning:
In most relationships/marriage, romance isn’t an automatic occurrence. Due to our daily activities, time constraints and everyday pressures creates a tendency that robs us of spontaneity. In order to overcome this natural hurdle, romance must be consciously created. Remember, what keeps your relationship fresh and exciting is romance. It keeps the two of you close and makes the bond stronger.
5. Constant Communication:
The key to a successful relationship/marriage is “Communication”. You don’t have to be far from each other before you consider communication skills to be essential in your relationship/marriage. When your spouse/partner is away at work, do check up on him/her. A simple phone call would definitely put a smile on his/her face. You can call to ask if he/she has had breakfast/launch – whatever the scenario might be, always try to build that communication platform. It brings creates a strong bond and makes you both happy.
In summary, Learn to tolerate. Try and understand your partner and don’t forget to resolve conflicts quickly. Implement the above tips and you’ll certainly enjoy your relationship/marriage. Meanwhile, the comment box is always open to air your views.
Later my friend!